Kwento ng isang kaibigan… (true to life survivor)

May isa akong friend.. nag kwento siya sa akin ng isang karanasan sa buhay niya na masasabi ko na ang brave niya na tao at bilib ako sakanya sa napag daanan niya ang ganung pag subok ng buhay…minsan inakala ko sobra na at malala na ang mga pag subok sa buhay na pinag daraanan ko… pero nung tiningnan at pinakingan ko ng mabuti ang mundo.. napapahinto ako… at napapaisip at na-guguilty… napa ka blessed ko pala…dahil sa lahat ng sakit na pinag daraanan ko may natutunan ako… kaya nung huminto ako para mag isip.. napadasal ako..
“GOD, sorry, kung minsan naitanung ko sayo at hindi maintindihan ang mga pinagdaraan ko, sorry kung minsan noon nagalit ako sayo, sorry dahil nasaktan kita at naging makasarili ako… and most of all thank you dahil mahal mo ko at ibinigay mo sakin lahat ng eto… pinagpa-pray ko din po sana yung others na mas nangangailangan po ng tulong mo po.. listen to their prayers po… amen “
Eto ang kwento ng kaibigan ko… 20-21 years old siya noon… 2006, pumapasok siya sa college as normal student… that time… sumasakit lagi every morning yung tiyan niya.. sobra sakit lagi.. may ugali kase siya na pag may sakit siya hindi siya nag sasabi sa parents niya.. that time inisip niya na either empacho o kabag lang yun.. kase sasakit ng 1 hour tapus normal na the whole day almost everyday… then one day sa school.. nag special class siya one on one sa professor niya sa faculty rom… nag paalam siya mag comfort room sa pag aakalang natatae lang siya… then yung professor niya umalis din to go somewhere natagalan… pag punta niya sa banyo na nasa sulok sulok ng office room, sumakit tiyan na sa point na napaupo na siya sa sakit.. nahihilo siya at feeling hihimatayin sa sakit… pero tinapangan niya at inisip na lalabanan niya yung sakit.. hindi na siya maka lakad that time.. kaya napa upo nalang siya sa toilet bowl for one hour at nung naisip niya na kailangan na niya lumabas else walang makaka alam na andun siya full effort siya lumabas pag ka labas nakita siya ng professor niya na namumutla na at nanghihina.. pinupo siya pinaypayan, dinala sa clinic at pinainum ng gamot, then hinatid na siya ng mga friends niya sa house, pag dating sa house, tiniis pa din niya yung sakit til hindi na niya kaya nag sabi na siya sa parents niya at nag padala na sa hospital.. sa hospital dinala siya sa emergency room at dun sinuri at akala pa ng doctor na buntis siya.. nakipag talo pa siya sa doctor dahil wala siyang boy friend so paano mangyayari yun, ayaw pa niya mag give ng urine sa doctor to have the examination kase nga naiinis siya so nagtalo pa sila ng doctor til ihing ihi na siya naibigay na niya yung urine niya for the test, after lumabas negative nga, hindi buntis, so inakala ng mga doctor baka appendicitis na yun, so ni-start na yung operation, then nakita ng mga doctor na namamaga nga yung appendix niya.. but not because appendix ang prob.. but because kase nauusog na yung appendix niya at mga internal organs dahil sa may ovary niya may malaki ng bag of blood, so binuksan na ng mga doctor yung whole tiyan niya, pinapasok yung mom niya sa operating room at sinabihan kung ano yung situation at sinabi kung ano procedure gagawin, they agreed so okey na.. tinangal yung malaking bag of blood, hindi siya entirely nalinis ng mabuti kase may mga sticky something na blood na kumakapit.. so kinuha yung mga nakuha sa tiyan to have an examination again, so by this time 2 weeks staka daw makukuha ang result, pag gising niya gulat siya why ang laki nghiwa ng tiyan niya kung appendix lang naman yung ino-perate, so they explained everything to her, so after few days umuwi na siya to rest, after 2 weeks tumawag na nga yung doctor sa house nila at pinapunta yung mom niya sa hospital urgent and immediately. Then nung umuwi na yung mom niya from the hospital sabi “anak, kainin mo na lahat ng gusto mong kainin” then few days nakikita niya yung mom niya talking to their realtives umiiyak, mga relatives niya visiting her sa kanila then giving her all, til one day nalaman na nga niya yung truth about sa sakit niya, may chocolatesis siya o ovarian cancer siya…nasa family nila yung ganun sakit, genetics, imagine too young for cancer diba.. na-sad siya at first pero naisip niya kung papa apekto siya hindi din naman siya gagaling, she prayed deeply to GOD and just accepted the fact na ganun na nga… she fights to survive sa sakit na pinag daraanan niya, umiiyak siya pero hindi niya pinapakita sa family niya, instead pinapakita niya na malakas siya at masaya siya…thank GOD at nasa low stage palang yung sakit niya at curable pa naman pag nag chemotherapy siya or radiotherapy siya , so she under go the theraphy for 6 months, so far the result was good, gumaling siya, and now living a normal life….but may chance na bumalik yung sakit niya, remember as I’ve mentioned kanina hindi fully nalinis yung ovary niya nung blood sticky na nakuha sakanya, and its not advisable na ioperate siya again sabi ng mga doctor… and the fact na forever niya dadalhin yung fact na wala na siya ng chance na mag ka anak.. sad in a way, but still given the chance to extend her life is something to be grateful of.. kaya now she needs a guy na maintindihan situation niya na hindi na siya pwede pa mag ka anak..
See? How grateful should we be… dahil hindi natin naranasan yung naranasan niya…. Siya nga she did hold on to GOD pa… So kung feeling miserable ka.. think again there are others na mas pa ang pinag daraanan.. thanks for reading my blog… more stories to come… c”,)

My ideal guy and GOD’s guy for me

Well anyway noh.. kahit wala me plans mag ka howe o mag asawa may ideal guy pa din me.. hehe wala lang para may standard lang hehe someone na Christian as in matured and continnue growing Christian… pero super importante din ang looks.. he have to be tall, white, handsome sa mga mata ko ang huggable (ayaw ko sa mataba o payatot)… mabango ( ayaw ko sa may putok, gosh hindi me makahinga, mahilig pa naman me mang amoy ng kilikili hahaha), matalino, magaling, masipag at marunong sa life… dapat hindi siya boring kasama…hindi isip bata… okey lang maging righteous huwag lang boring dapat may fun at trill ang relationship.. kase that’s life with mj… full of color and excitement.. very spontaneous and adventurous na tao me so dapat match para perfect couple… so far sa nagyon wala pa kong nahahanap na ganyang guy, meron 3 times na ko nag ka howe, my “almost” ideal guy, kaso things didn’t work out but still okey lang we all had fun that’s what I call experience hehe hindi lagi nahahanap at nakakatuluyan natin ang ideal natin.. mahirap yun.. kase parang more utak na yung ginamit which kelangan din talaga gumamit ng puso hehe dapat may “love” importante… well siyempre kelangan physically attractive siya sa mga mata ko.. mahirap na ang hindi hehe baka every morning gigising me full of regrets hehe importante mahal at accept niya ako kung sino ako.. accept niya na ganito ako.. sweet, mabait, spontaneous, mataray, masayahin, masungit, moody, talented, sporty, active, masipag, antukin, mapag mahal, maalaga, matipid sobra (barat), matakaw (paminsan patay gutom, oh my buffet hehehe) , sexy ( daring sometimes, GOD’s gift hehehe), cutie pretty and sometimes gorgeous hehehehe, makulit, sobrang sensitive, maarte paminsan, matalino (feeling magaling sometimes), ayaw mag patalo (lalo na pag tama), accept niya family ko, accept niya past ko ( na may 3 ex na ko, hey no regrets mga yun and no one can change that), accept niya schedule ko ( especially time ko with GOD).. and so importante mag kasundo kami.. ako boss at siya ang alipin… ay joke..hehehe basta magka sundo.. yung tipong kahit mag away kami ng ilang beses… harmonious pa din kaming magbabati at magkakasundo pa din in the end… and we’ll love each other after every fight…saya! how sweet… hehe Last month lang, a friend nag kwento sakin about standard for girls ng isang guy na friend namin, na gusto nila sa girls na wala pang nagiging howe… after the conversation napa isip me sabi ko sa sarili ko, oo nga noh.. paano na nga ako kung lahat ng guys sa church ganun mag isip.. wala na ko magiging howe at maka pag asawa me na sure ako Christian o wala ng chance na magkasama pa me sa list ng mga guys sa church, well affected ako for ilang weeks kaya nawala me lalo ng gana mag ka howe o mag isip pa na makaka pag asawa pa me… well I just came to realize, nung pina realize sakin ng some friends ko na hindi ganun yun mj… DUH!!! So what!! Kung hindi ako kasama sa list nila kung sino man yung mga yun if ever hehehe.. kasama ba sila sa list ko? Feeling nila super gwapo nila para mamili? Well sorry mas pretty ako para mamili at hindi mawalan, unless ayawin ko na talaga ng mag asawa hahaha… actually its more like this.. if a person really loves me.. kahit 10 pa naging howe ko.. he’ll accept.. after all howe lang yun hindi anak noh.. hehe well applicable lang etong sinasabi ko sa guys na hindi ako kasama sa list nila dahil eto ang reason hehehe then, may ilang friends ako na sinabihan ako na super sensitive daw ako and guys don’t like that daw… DUH!! Again.. So what!! Walang masama sa pagiging sensitive ko.. siguro konti pag sumobra na yung reaksyons ko cause of that sensitivity but still part yun ng pagiging girl ko.. and I think sweet and thoughtful people ang mga sensitive na tao hehehe so kung ayaw ng guy sa isang sensitive na tulad ko… may mga guys diyan na gusto yun.. o iintidihin yun.. madami pa din guys diyan na mamahalin ang ugali kong sensitive hehehe after all walang perfect girl same walang perfect guy.. c”,) walang spice ang relationship kung dull ang relationship hehe another may issue din sa ibang friends ko na daring daw me mag suot ng damit.. well in my opinion that’s fine.. occasionally… hehe sometimes okey lang maging daring.. hehe to show some skin.. some.. not all pa naman hehe… that’s fashion.. and I would truly appreciate ang guy na maiintidihan yun.. I know my limitations naman eh noh!!! Hehehe anyway someday makaka tagpo din me again ng guy na magmamahal sakin.. na almost perfect and right for me.. hehe yung will sakin ni GOD hehe

KSP ako…

Totoo and aminado ako na KSP ako…kulang sa pansin at kulang sa pag mamahal ng magulang.. hehe pinapansin naman ako at mahal naman ako ng parents ko.. yun nga lang mas mahal at pinpansin lang yung dalawa kong kapatid.. maybe kase bunsong lalaki at babae… o kase ako yung panganay na babae.. o baka kase nasa isip ng parents ko na ako yung panganay kaya lagi ako dapat umintindi, mag pasensya at lahat kaya ko kase ako nga yung matanda.. mahirap in a way.. pero okey lang naman.. sanay na ko..hehe pwede ko sabihin na siguro nag selos nga ako sa mga kapatid ko which is masama… but hindi naman sobra kase masaya naman ako for them eh… hehe simula bata nakita ko yung treatment nila samin.. iba talaga. In many ways.. dumating sa point nung bata ako na kala ko ampon ako.. hinanap ko pa birth certificate ko at pinunit sa pag aakalang ampon ako.. pero impossible eh kase kamukha ko mama at papa ko.. pati mga birth mark nila mga nunal same same so paano me magigng ampon hehe hindi hindi ako mapag kakaila na anak hehe well, thank GOD and to my parents because of them eto ang face ko.. cutie mj hehe anyway sabihin natin umabot ako sa age na ganito.. parang kulang sa pag mamahal o baka sobrang pag mamahal lang ang need ko which nahati samin tatlo magkakapatid kaya kinapus yung needs ko.. hehe anyway til now 23 na ko mag 24 nag seselos pa din me sa treatment na pinapakita ng parents ko sa mga kapatid ko hehe kaya paminsan tahimik lang me.. sa labas with friends at sa house medyo iba me.. sa labas im so talkative at masayahin all the time.. ganun din naman sa house, but not all the time nga lang.. madalas tahimik lang me at tulog, matakaw kase me sa tulog hehe pag naiinis me o nag seselos o masama loob ko tahimik lang me pero pag sobra na at galit na ko maingay na me hehe paminsan na-open ko sa parents ko about sa na-feefeel ko… iiyak me sobra habang nag-oopen up, mag change sila for awhile pero balik uli sa dati hehe anyway ok lang sanay na.. my whole life everything na iniisip ko at ginagawa ko para sa family ko.. para sa parents ko para maging proud sila sakin.. before high school to college hindi nila me maintindihan.. kahit anong gawin ko mali pa din for them.. but nung gruma-duate na ko ng college at nag work na-appreciate na nila me, at nagging proud.. actually moody sila hehe minsan lang sila maging proud sakin.. pero that’s fine.. atleast kahit konti meron… pero since bata wala me ginawa kung di isipin ang parents ko at family ko.. at i-please sila or gawin and give everything for them na kaya ko.. paminsan nakaka hurt na hindi nila alam yung mga iniisip at ginagawa ko tapus i-judge nila me na bad… pero ok lang hehe maybe eto yung reason na bakit ako lagi nag kaka howe kase nag hahanap ako ng taong mag give sakin ng so much love.. na hindi ma-fill ng family ko… actually alam eto ng mga nagging ex boyfriends ko, yan din kase ang napansin nila hehe but na-relaize ko na hindi solusyon yun kaya ayaw ko na din mag enter sa relationship at partly napagod na din talga me kase lagging disastrous ang kwento ng lovelife ko hehe… Sa sobrang mahal ko family ko dumating sa point this last week of September and the whole month of October na ayaw ko na mag howe o mag asawa kase hindi ko gusto iwan o ayaw ko iwan parents ko kase may family problem kami na malaki.. sa totoo samin mag kaka patid ako mas may malasakit sa parents ko.. yung dalawang bunso.. mas wala.. pero sila pa din ang favorite at mahal.. but its okey.. hindi ko sinasabi eto dahil feeling ako o dahil ako yung nag kwekwento… but eto kase yung nakikita ko din from my siblings… but hindi ko sinasabi na hindi mahal ng mga kapatid ko parents namin, natural mahal din sobra.. c”,) Last 2006 kinausap ko shoti ko sabi ko pag nag asawa me siya na bahala sa parents namin.. siya ang bubuhay dahil siya ang nag iisang anak na lalaki at sakanya talaga mapupunta parents namin… sagot niya sakin… ayaw ko nga may mga kamay at paa sila.. bahala sila mabuhay… sinagot ko siya at and I explained.. so far nakita ko clear na sakanya ang mga bagay bagay… but still sa ngayon mukhang kung dati gusto gusto ko na mag asawa… ngayon ayaw ko na… hehe walang plan hehe well alam naman lahat ni GOD mga nangyayari sa life ko.. at alam din niya what’s best for me so bahala na siya hehe im always praying naman for HIS will for me eh… kahit ano gustuhin give and blessed sakin ni GOD I am more than happy to accept… HE is my strength and my LORD.. c”,)

Problema... ang hirap maging tao noh…

Kala mo ikaw lang ang may problema? Kala mo ikaw lang ang nahihirapan? Ako din noh.. alam mo ba yun? lahat tayo may problema at nahihirapan, lahat tayo eh umiiyak at nasasaktan… lahat ng tao may kanya kanyang malaking problema.. depende ang problema sa tao mismo.. sayo ang problema mo possible malaki pero para sakin baka wala lang yan.. o vice versa.. lahat tayo ay may pinag daraanan… depende kung paano mo dadalhin.. mali sabihin na quenu-question mo si GOD sa pinag daraanan mo ngayon.. sa ginagawa mong yan sa palagay mo ikaw lang ang nasasaktan?? Hindi!! Sinasaktan mo si GOD, aware ka ba dun? Kase mahal ka niya, kaya ka niya binibigayan ng problema, may gusto lang siya na matutunan mo… pero ang ginawa mo nagalit ka pa sakanya.. dapat magpasalamat ka pa sakanya kase binigyan ka niya ng pagsubok.. eto lang way ni GOD para turuan ka na leskyon sa buhay.. na para tumatag ka o someday magamit mo yung natutunan mo o ituro mo sa ibang tao ang natutunan mo… binibigyan ka din niya ng problema kase gusto niya lumapit ka sakanya at mas maging close kayo pero ano ginawa mo? Lumayo ka pa sakanya… kung wala kang problemang tao.. aba! E mag isip isip ka na? dahil baka hindi ka na kabilang sa planet earth hehehe anyway, nasa tao paano niya dadalhin ang problema… tandaan mo..normal lang yang sakit at hirap na pinag daraanan mo kahit pa sabihin mo bakit sayo lang nangyayari yan o bakit sayo pa.. o sana ibang problema nalang… well…lahat ng bagay may purpose alam mo naman yan.. na hindi pa nga lang nga natin alam sa ngayon, someday we’ll know and understand.. ang kaso lang ang problema huwag mong damdamin ng matagal.. wag mong isipin ng isipin.. iiyak o isipin mo lang ng isang bese o ng isang araw o minsan lang… pag nag paapekto ka hindi naman masusulusyunan ang problema mo eh.. lalaki pa hehe ituring mo lang ang problem na parang wala.. tapus darating time na maiisip mo “ay! May problema nga pala ako..hehe” tatawanan mo nalang kase hindi ka na apektado… tandaan mo lahat ng problema may solusyon… at kung sakali ang unang mong lalapiptan si GOD… siya all the time makikinig, siya ang unang makakatulong sayo, magdasal ka, magbasa ng bible para malaman mo ang sagot o ang gagawin… kung gusto mo pwede ka din lumapit sa mga kapamilya o kaibigan mo.. ok?? So don’t be sad na…ha? c”,)

In my thought it hurts, but not in my heart...

Well, I have this kwento… kase I have a client, she bought a unit na from me… and she wanted to be an agent kase madami siya gusto bentahan na friends.. this is not a usual case sa office.. kase usually ang client nag refer sa agent then after sa agent mapupunta yung benta.. so this client masasabi kong mahilig talaga kumita ng pera… which is not bad naman… walang masama…actually pwede din naman arrangement na pasok sa account ko benta then give ko sakanya commission.. which ayaw niya kase siguro walang full trust pa sakin, na give ko sakanya commission.. which hindi ko siya ma-blame.. hehe so me and my manager talk to her, but she insisted na gusto niya maging manager.. this client madami connection.. which is, naisip kong, if talagang pagpipilitan niya gusto niya…better mapunta nalang siya sa under sa manager ko.. which my manager will have all the benefits instead of me.. so I decided na din na ganun with my consent I agree.. kahit medyo sad.. medyo lang naman for an hour… naisip ko din kase na ayaw ko din naman na maging selfish na hindi me papayag sa ganoong arrangement.. na sila dalawa mag benefit at ako yung nawalan.. pero naisip ko din na better na dito sa 2nd manager ko mapunta yung benefits kaysa sa iba pa kung hindi din talaga sakin mapupunta, since he is a good person naman.. he is not greedy, a very hard working person din and a very mabait na anak.. kaya its okey hehe.. in my thought it hurts.. but not in my heart… nag swimming lang me... after an hour wala na sad thoughts… okey na.. wala na… hehe after all its just all about money and position… so if its not GOD’s will, its not… so I’ll just pray for his will.. hehe and still im thankful for everything hehe

I was born to love you…

Yes. I was born to love you… , gulat ka noh.. hehe siguro nung nakita mo yung title, napaisip ka bigla ano ba ibig sabihin ni mj at binasa mo na eto agad hehehe wala lang nalaman ko lang the past weeks my gift… my gift from GOD.. =D of course pinaka una I was born to love, praise and worship GOD. But yun nga.. I was also born.. with this gift of loving and caring… I am full of love inside me.. kaya pala before I always get into relationships because I have so much love and care to give… I love loving and caring, especially my love ones na minsan na-sosobrahan at nagiging mali hehe but eto na nga yung kwento.. I was before looking for someone to love.. parang feeling need of howe.. but mapaisip me.. medyo matagal tagal na isipan ah.. haha it takes months for me to realize… also hindi me basta basta din pumapasok sa isang relationship.. namimili pa ako sa lagay na yan.. dami choices eh hehehe joke.. anyway the past months I can’t find or should I say walang mr. right na lumalapit sakin.. so ano gagawin ko? Mag hanap at manligaw sa isang mr. right? Okey that’s a NO! NO!… that’s one thing I won’t ever do.. also super maingat na din me by this time, ayaw ko na ma-fall sa mali again.. hehe yeah im learning sa mga relationships… but also stupid ako pag 2 x ako nag kamali sa same thing diba.. if ever dapat ibang pagkakamali naman hehehe eh yun so sabi ko nga I have so much love… ano gagawin ko? Well eventually.. siyempre yung love ko kay GOD solid yun… etong human love and care ko ibang level… solid na pwede hatiin hehehe Oh well.. hehe so siyempre im loving and caring for my family… also giving love and care for my friends… chosen nga lang before… and now naisip ko na madami pa din inside me.. so nilabas ko nalang lahat ng love and care ko sa lahat ng tao.. I will just love and care for everyone that I have in my life hehe so after doing that I feel peace and lightness. Im not sure kung eto ba yung reason why parang may feeling of satisfaction me.. not 100% but big part sa level na… wala me iniisip na gusto ko mag karoon ng howe o relationship… parang kahit wala okey lang im happy with life and stuff.. hehe inshort wala me hinahanap hehehe yun lang =D mwah! To you reader…Hehe anyway lets see if babalik uli ako sa moment na feeling nag hahanap ng someone hehe

My bad... Im sorry...

Asking an apology to what we have done wrong, intentionally or not is a very brave thing to do.. It is a step of accepting that we are wrong, and we are sorry for the damage we have caused. The damages can be emotionally, physically, mentally, morally or combination. There are several levels of apology, which is easy to say and then after we don’t really care at all with the small matter. Asking an apology sincerely to a big matter isn’t just simple, it takes a long time to think things over and to finally realize, it is as hard as forgiving. When you ask for forgiveness, you lower your pride, you humble down yourself and you loose nothing. Instead you gain respect, relationship, peace, love and GOD. Sometimes asking an apology is better if it is right after, didn’t take that long to apologize. But remember that it is never too late to apologize, there no such thing as “too late” for an apology, because what are most important are the realization of the person and the acceptance of mistake, sometimes it took some other people to accept their faults or maybe GOD gave them situation to finally realize and accept. Sometimes GOD give situation for people to realize their fault by making them feel the feeling that they have once made other feels. There are people also who are numb to realize and see their faults, which I feel sorry for them. Accepting something we’ve done wrong is wisdom, because we learn. Also it is also important that when we ask for apology, is as good as a non-word promise of “I won’t do it again.” or “It won’t happen again”. A lot of people apologize to certain things over and over again but they keep on repeating. It is important to learn and change, not to learn and maintain and not change at all. Sadly there are people who apologize without heart and sincerity, just for the sake of peace. In my opinion that I think, when you know how to apologize you'll know how to forgive... And lastly when we know how to accept mistakes we know we have GOD in us, why? We also will know how to repent and ask for forgiveness of our sins to him… make sense huh?? hehe

The love of money is the root of all evil.... story two

This is my second story, I have a manager friend, he is my first manager when I start my work in a real estate company, he is a really good friend of mine, I enjoy the companionship with him as a friend and as a manager, he is kind and nice person, he take cares of his friend, like me when I am sick, he reminds me and gives me water every time, he is also a not so strict manager, he also find time to go out with his people and allows them to do whatever they want to do with their time, but it all turn out that you can only know the true color of a person if money is already involve… it started when our contract was renewed. an issue arises that he wanted me to share the half portion of my commission with him, for he will no longer will benefit from my sales, for before he was my manager and after the renewal of contract, I will be transferred to another manager who will then benefit if ever I’ll have sales. So he talk to me and ask me to made an arrangement with him, to divide my commission to 2, and give the other half to him, because if I didn’t do so, he said that he can get all my customers from me, for he have all the contact because he knew my customers because he is my former manager and he have all their contact numbers, he also thought of an arrangement for me not to be unfair daw, he thought na I should talk to my new manager and ask him to give me the .5 percent that this new manager will benefit from me to give to me, so in short he is already playing dirty, but that time I didn’t thought that he is already being bad to me, all I was thinking back then is that what he is saying is possible I got scared and threatened, I was so confused and troubled that time, an office mate approach me and ask what wrong, after hearing the story then she told me that its so unfair that how could a manager or friend like that do such thing to me, he said that what he did is bad, so many heard what happened some approached me and some I approached. They gave me solutions and made me understand more the situation, some even told me to file an ethic case against him, but as a friend I don’t want to worsen the situation, then came to the point that I had the solution and move on to it. This former manager of mine approached me, he ask foe forgiveness, because he already knew that people inside the office already knew what happened. I forgive him and stayed as normal friends. after the issue I was already hearing stories or situations of other salesman how this person always make sulot of their clients, sad that I cannot share their story here, I have respect their privacy, so I just shut up and pretended that I know nothing. Hearing stories from them, I didn’t defend this friend because inside me I know that he has the capabilities to do all the accusation I am hearing. One Monday , I am again hearing sulot sulot client stories inside the office, it always saddens me and stressed me every time I hear situations sa office na ganyan. I approached him as a friend and ask him, is this real fight here in our office? He said yes, (then now you can relate the story which I wrote in “my office is a dangerous battlefield…”). Then Tuesday came, a group mate of mine asked me, do you think it’s advisable to give our clients information to our manager, I said no, because someday you can never tell. You know what the issue with my clients is before. Then now I am caught up again in a situation with him which I cannot yet share here because I am still in need of evidences… but after everything I've decided not to do anything against this person, instead forgive and trust GOD everything.

Envy can kill

Are you aware that envy or jealousy can kill?? =D yeah.. it kills your soul, your moral, you integrity, your love, your mind and your faith. And in the end you’ll turn out weak and useless or worst you die. And are you aware that it is one of the seven deadly sins..?? yes, it is hehe
I have a friend umpisa palang talaga na-feel ko na na-nainggit siya sakin in many ways, nilayuan ko siya, naging cold me sakanya, kase harap harapan siya magsalita.. feeling niya inagawan ko siya ng friend, kinausap ko yung guy na nagtatampo na etong girl na eto, pag nag sasalita siya harap harapan tawa tawa lang me I am trying to understand her, one time we played badminton, I am not trying to compare with her sa outfit, but the way she sounded admirig my get up and criticizing her’s napaisip ako, wala mesinabi more, then may instance na nakabenta me at naka close ng 5 units, she loves her job, masipag siya super na tao and she deserves din makabenta, but maybe may ibang plan si GOD for her, and then diredirecho ilang days na nakakrating sakin ang pag ka envy niya from other people but in a way na hindi ganun ka-direct ang message, eh nagkataon nag tampo siya sa isang friend namin, eh that friend naka tampuhan ko din before, eh nung nag ka tampuhan kami binilhan me ng chef tony’s na popcorn nung mga freidn ko nun, eh siya nag ka tampuhan sila, e hindi siya nabigyan nag salita siya harapan again eh that time medyo short ang patience ko so naka pag salita me ng straight na ano ba prob niya? then she told me, then thank GOD that time huminahon me and tried to understand her again, I really can’t blame people to get envy of me.. but I don’t want them to, kase there’s nothing to envy about me, so I explained in GOD’s way and words. so it turns out okey naman, naintindihan naman niya and we ended up the day nice and happy, then after few days she told me that she is so bothered, that she really wants me to be her friend, that she wants to please me, I am really flattered, but napaisip me…
So I told her ok naman tayo, first you don’t have to please me, we live and created not to please people but to please GOD alone, glorify him and praise him. if people don’t appreciate you, so what you don’t live for them, you can loose them but you can never loose GOD, if its GOD’s will for us to be friends, we will, someday, time will come and darating yung situation na maging good friends din tayo, huwag pilitin, just pray for GOD about it… if sa tingin niya hindi ko siya ma-appreciate, then she must be affected, ano ba naman ang opinion na i-gigive ko saknaya o ng ibang tao sakanya at kung hindi ko siya ma-appreacite, hindi niya dapat problemahin, importante ang tingin sakanya ni GOD, ang dapat na importante niyang isipin na in everything she does is for the good and for GOD.. Thank GOD everyday for life is a gift and enjoy everyday and not to forget that worry is a sin and we should not, for we have GOD..
you know why ko ganyan sinabi bakit hindi din me nakipag super okey and friends sakanya that time, kase gusto ko na friends kami truthfully and real. someday… and ma-realize niya to stop ang habit?? maybe habit niya mag please ng tao… or para mas okey sa time na mas lessen na ang temptation sakanya mag envy..
so natuwa naman siya with what I told her, so he next day she is okey, until her last day sa office.. she wrote me a letter.. and I’ll summarize it nalang.. She repented that she envy me in many ways, and apologize for everything, she told me how much she appreciate me and wanted to be friend with me, and together grow in GOD… diba super nice…. hehe im so happy.. we communicate and exchange GOD’s words… Thank GOD c",) see how does GOD works?? galing noh... hehe

Please.....

The question is.. Is it okey to please people? The answer is absolutely no.. hehe why? people perish, family and friends are finite. They all soon leave and die. They didn’t create heaven and earth, they don’t have the power to save you from eternal death and separation from GOD, they don’t have the power to give eternal life.. These people knowledge and understanding are very limited and no compare to GOD, their forgiveness could also be limited unlike the forgiveness GOD has. And always fear GOD for HE can take away everything from you in a second, not a man can do, so who do you think you should be pleasing? Why please man diba? It is not bad to be good and show kindness to people, as man we should know how to respect others as a sign of knowing and loving GOD, because he commanded us to love one another. Do you want to know some humanly and logically explanation why we don’t need to please people?
First if you please, then these people will like you, but if you stop, they would also start not to like you.
Second, if these people love, like and true to you, even if you don’t please them they will continue to love, like and be true you.
Third, you won’t be happy to forever please people, there will come a time that you will get tired of doing that.
Fourth, it will hurt you a lot if the person you are trying to please didn’t appreciate you still, or have shown appreciation yet in the end leave you still.
Fifth, you will somehow somewhat expect a little return for all the pleasing you are showing, and sooner your expectations will go big. You might get to the point of being demanding and disappointed and end up ruining the relationship that you have just established or founded.
Sixth, it’s not healthy.
Seventh, pleasing people doesn’t make any difference from a pet.
Eighth, what’s the point? Better question your motive of wanting to please, maybe self-centeredness? Self-interest? Selfishness? due to love? attention? position? friendship? purpose? benefits?
Ninth, sometimes you please people because of idolness, idolness could lead to worshipping and praising the person. And remember we should only worship one GOD and all praise should only be to our one GOD.
Tenth, pleasing people is pleasing to GOD? remember HE is a very jealous GOD… c”,)

mahirap ba mag-forgive???

Its easy to say the word but hard to do… lalo na pag andun ka na sa situation… pag ikaw yung sinaktan at ginawan ng masama… but do you agree na not all people can forgive? Yeah may mga taong nagkikimkim ng sama ng loob at nag stay yung hurt and anger nila sa heart… they just don’t choose to forgive.. maybe pride? Maybe na-hurt sila sobra na kala nila yun na yun? Maybe hindi sila maka move on? Maybe inaantay nila yung tao na yun na mag ask ng apology? O maybe lahat yan nasa utak lang nila kaya hindi nila ma-forgive yung tao… can you forgive someone na hindi nag ask ng forgiveness?? Ako, I can.. hehe Alamo ba na peace of mind ang ma-feel mo pag nag forgive ka.. alam mo ba gaano kasarap matulog, kumain at mabuhay ng may peace of mind? Ang sarap ng life without a thought of anything bad or wrong.. its like living life and be ready to die anytime without worrying.. its like feeling the smile and the laugh from the heart… whole ang feeling… yah at first its hard to forgive someone na hindi nag ask ng apology.. but its up to you to live with the hurt and not move on.. pag hindi ka nag forgive aware ka ba na parang may kulang yung life mo? Yah kulang siya alamo bakit malayo si GOD eh.. I can’t explain paano ko eto nasasabi pero yun yung na-feel ko eh..maybe kase yung anger na nasa heart nag rooted ng revenge?? Or hatred?? Pero life won’t be fun pag hindi nag forgive eh.. kase parang nag stop yung time ko pag hindi ako nag forgive..eh iisipin ko nalang ganito… pag nag stop time ko.. yung tao na ba yun nag stop din ba time niya? Baka hindi.. pag nag apekto ako apektado din ba yung tao na yun? Probably hindi.. pag nagalit ako.. galit din ba yung tao na yun? More or less hindi.. pag inisip ko siya.. iniisip din ba niya ako? Malamang hindi.. madami pa.. see? Life stops, sino lugi? Ako… pag hindi ako nag forgive.. pag nasaktan tayo pwede natin isipin na talaga na life is unfair.. we can never do anything about that eh.. kase we don’t have the power to control… true naman talaga na life is unfair.. we just have to accept that it is reality.. masakit sa masakit masaktan.. but so what.. atleast you learn.. diba? Hehe and isipin mo nalang na atleast sure ka na tao ka.. may feelings ka.. hehe another do you agree na it takes time to forgive? Yeah ofcorse.. tao ka lang… but what’s important is you will end up forgiving. Normal lang isipin mo.. Why? What? How? Ka niya nasaktan o paano niya nagawa ang ganyan sayo… pero Alamo pointless yan eh… kase kahit gaano mo i-try intindihin, hindi mo maiintindihan agad, by time maiintindihan mo… plan and way yan ni GOD.. na maintindihan natin ang life at malaman ang purpose niya in everything… kilala mo ba kung sino pwede tumulong sayo mag forgive? Si GOD, lapit ka nalang sakanya, you can ask him many things… How? Why? And eventually you’ll realize ok ka na, and trusting everything to GOD …isipin mo ikaw ba walang sin? Wala ka ba kasalanan sa ibang tao? Sa family mo? Kay GOD? Hindi mo ba sila na-hurt? As in never? Meron diba? But si GOD nagawa ka niya i-forgive? Parents mo kahit gaano ka kasalbahe at kasama, mahal ka pa din nila.. ikaw, eh human ka lang din, why hindi mo ma-forgive kapwa mo? Alam mo ganun ka-sakit ma-feel na life is unfair? Why not try to be fair sa ibang tao para ma-feel nila ang fairness sa life from you? Kahit sayo life is unfair…malay mo ma-feel mo din yun…diba? Since hindi ka naman perfect… mag forgive ka .. pabayaan mo yung tao na naka hurt sayo, if hindi siya nag ask ng forgiveness sayo.. or what.. so what.. hindi lang siya tao sa mundo.. hindi naman sakanya umiikot buhay mo eh.. importante masaya ka, may peace of mind at maisip mo na may mga tao pa around you… and most of all you know how to fear GOD kaya nagawa mo mag forgive .. hehe

A morning full of love…

The day today is beautiful… its like a sunshine after the rain hehe ewan ko basta pag ka gising ko ngayon umaga kahit na im sick pa din, yung fever ko hindi pa magaling, yung feeling na full of energy and so inlove hehe parang ang happy ng day ko today na parang ang sarap i-start ng day at tapusin ng full of moments.. I don’t know.. basta.. im feeling happy na parang inlove.. eh im am not inlove naman sa isang human or to anyone… im not seeing anyone.. im not getting to know someone… im not looking at someone din.. iba lang yung feeling hehe parang feeling na may howe ako today at first day namin na kami… hahaha well thank GOD that HE have given me a beautiful day today hehe maybe baka eto yung feeling having a very very deep talk with GOD before I go to sleep kanina hehe.. I prayed about sa mga clients ko na maka benta ako na i-softened niya yung heart nila to buy and sa will niya na guy for me… hay.. hindi ko nga alam kung tama ba yung naiisip ko na will niya na guy for me.. kase feeling ko kilala ko na kung sino yun.. kaso siyempre si GOD lang talaga nakakaalam kung sino ba talaga hehe.. malay ko mali pala ako sa akala ko nanaman hehe hindi naman nanliligaw yung tao sakin na yun.. hindi din naman sa hindi ko siya type, hindi ko din naman siya mahal… pero feel ko siya na kase parang perfect and right lang siya for me hehe kung sino man yung guy na feeling ko siya na… SECRET… hahahaha ewan nakaka loka… si GOD talaga nilalagyan niya ng excitement and trill buhay ko hahahaha

no regrets..

The past weeks I just realized something…
I’ve been in a boy and girl relationship for 3 times… a happy and sad relationship.. which people says ended up with nothing… they all 3 have done me wrong… they all 3 have hurt me… but… I can still say that they all 3 are a good person… have loved me purely, have leaved me with good and happy memories and taught me the teachings of love…
I always knew this realization that hopefully it would stuck up in my mind for good.. that I won’t happen to forget na… hehe I realize na not only them did me wrong.. I also do… I have also hurt them… things in life should not be always blamed to others… sometimes even if it hurts, we must not forget that we also need to accept that surely in the process we have done something wrong… I realize that maybe kaya hindi din nag work yung relationdsip.. maybe because somehow somewhat naging childish me, im too dominant and aggressive, too bossy and demanding, hard to handle person.. hehe even if Im truly sweet and caring to them. I realized that I have to change this attitude of mine… before involving myself again in a relationship… And also have a Christian guy… a true one.. okey….!!! Hehe see??? The past 3 relationships of mine is not totally nothing… because I came to the point where I learned how to be humble enough to accept my faults and change them eventually.. hopefully.. hehe Hey, its painful to be separated with the one you love ah… everytime you fail you’ll learn how to be matured enough to accept and put all the trust in GOD to be whole again and feel alive again… isa pa.. learn that human love perishes and vanishes… but GOD’s love… never… its so pure and true… can you see how GOD’s plan works??? It is HIS will… HE made me feel the past relationship to be happy full of love and turned it into failure so that someday I can be better in it... hehe Oh GOD you’re works are full of mystery hehe

Life is unfair…indeed….

Last Sunday a topic came up, I and my friends had a discussion over this matter…
I gave an example…
I said.. what If 2 matured Christian friends of ours got together and become husband and wife… They lived together and had children… their family became a good example of a Christian family… what if 30 years after the guy committed a sin.. he had an affair with a woman.. so he committed adultery, what if the guy accidentally got this woman pregnant and had a baby.. what would be the case now? How we friends of this guys would react?
A friend of mine answered…
HE: the wife have to forgive and accept..
I: that’s unfair.. it’s hard
HE: its really painful and hurtful… but in a Christian family you have to accept and forgive…
I: how about sa church?
HE: he will put to church discipline, after makakabalik naman siya if he repent and pag naayos na, and also everyone sa church will forgive… kailangan lang niya ma-discipline kase baka may ma-stumble na believer…
I: ok, but how about us his friends? Talk to him?
HE: he said yes and forgive
I: ok, e his image? Chaka kung ako yun mag iiba tingin ko talaga sakanya
HE: wala na tayo magagawa diyan…

Then again I stated an example that I am trying to connect with the situation of this husband…

What if this guy friend of mine who I am talking to this Sunday has no girl friend yet, and he is to choose between the ladies around to be a candidate of courtship.. I ask what if a single parent young lady once made a mistake and had a child, na-church discipline na siya and naka balik na din sa church, she is forgiven by all she has repented…so the question is this magiging candidate pa ba siya sa for you future wife?
HE: no!!
I: why? People forgive her na…the church forgive her na… and when we forgive we forget the mistake na ginawa ng tao right? So hindi na count yung nag ka mistake niya diba?
HE: may choice ka naman eh, and I choose not
I: eh bakit mali ba na maging choice siya?
HE: yes!
I: why? So you mean hindi ka nag forgive?
HE: sabi sa bible.. mga widow hindi na pwede mag asawa
I: saan? Eh sabi sa bible, pwede pa kaya.. chaka hindi naman siya widow, single parent
HE: widow yun… basta hindi na siya candidate for marriage

then he said
HE: Life is unfair MJ alamo ba yun?
I: Yeah I know life is unfair…I strongly agree with that…

Then we pause….

HE: did I answer you question??
I: I think so…

It’s the sad realization of life… that LIFE is UNFAIR… and I am always a witness to that… because I have always live my life full of pain, sufferings, and unfairness from others… but still I am happy and glad.. I stumble in life, do mistake, do bad and learn from them, people do me wrong, meet people who would hurt me… but with all of this I learned a lot.. become more and more knowledgeable and full of wisdom, all of this is bringing me closer and closer to GOD, I can say that I am living a life…a real life…a life as real as GOD… and still I would want to praise GOD that HE have given me this gift of life… that no one could ever imagined.. not everyone are given the chance to have a miserable yet very very colorful moments in life… Thank you GOD… And I love you…

The patient and the old man

If given the situation…you only have to help one… what would you do???

You met two different strangers both are poor and in need of help…who would you help??

First situation:
The first person… is a patient in the hospital.. about in late 40’s or early 50’s of age… she got a family.. they are poor. she is in need of financial support for medication… but you happen to know the character and attitude of this patient…she hated GOD for giving her this situation… she curse GOD.. she is also a bad towards others… she steal… she sell lust… and more….
The second person… is an old man.. who work hard everyday… making pamaypay which he weave with all his heart, bring it to Divisoria, hanging the pile of pamaypay around himself, staying under the sun and sell it for a very cheap amount 20pesos each earning little in order to support his family…it also happen that you know this person character he is a good person, he praises GOD even given this situation, he don’t ask for alms, he works with his sweat and blood but obviously this man also need financial help…
ME: I would want to help the old man instead…
YOU??? And why?

Second situation:
The first person… is a patient in the hospital.. about in late 40’s or early 50’s of age… she got a family.. they are poor. she is in need of financial support for medication… but you happen not to know anything about this patient…
The second person… is an old man.. who work hard everyday… making pamaypay which he weave with all his heart, bring it to Divisoria, hanging the pile of pamaypay around himself, staying under the sun and sell it for a very cheap amount 20pesos each earning little in order to support his family…it also happen that you also don’t know this person character or attitude but obviously this man also in of need financial help…
ME: Still the old man…
YOU??? And why?

The love of money is the root of all evil.... story one

How could he claim that he is a GOD fearing person, if all he love is money?? I knew a person na ganyan..sad at medyo complicated yung situation na hindi ko ma-kwento yung whole story… anyway matagal na siyang Christian…sa pag claim niya na Christian siya that he really feared GOD… at first mataas talaga tingin ko sakanya.. I respect this person kase akala ko mabait siya purely.. but tao pala talaga nag iiba by time and pag dating sa usapan ng pera…lumalabas mga horns nila… nagiging selfish.. uncontiously nakakahurt na sila ng ibang tao at nakaka pag pahirap na sila ng buhay ng ibang tao.. pero akla pa din nila tama ginagawa nila…may nag sabi that he and she wants revenge.. labanan daw mag higanti the way they know how…but I stand and correct them and say no!! just stand still and be idle about the situation… let them do what they want to do.. kung sobra na siyang sama.. let them.. they are knowledgeable enough to know na ginagawa nila tama or mali… and they claim to be a believer… minsan, before… nagrevenge kayo sa gantong gantong ginawa din nila… sino talo…in the end kayo din… so why bother… sabi ko just trust GOD may mata naman siya eh.. HE is not blind not to know… nakikita niya ang tama at mali.. and I know that HE won’t allow people like this to live smoothly in life without punishment… HE is a fair GOD… and HE punishes those who sins.. always remember that life is like a round ball… sometimes your on the top sometimes your on the bottom…and all the things that we do, have consequences… either rewards or punishment… just remember live your life in full trust of the LORD our GOD.. HE knows best.. just trust…

oh GOD im sick today....

Im so sick today.. as in.. pumasok me ng office for one hour after unuwi na.. hindi ko na kaya kung pipilitin ko pa.. actually hindi ko na pinilit mag swim today even na-addict na ko mag swim everyday… baka kase hindi pa ko gumaling agad… last sunday kase masama na pakiramdam ko nung umaga after church service.. but nag swim pa din me before meeting my friends… tigas kase ulo ko.. sabi ko sa sarili ko… yung sakit… its all in the mind.. after swimming nawala yung feeling sick… after on the way na ako with my friends to meet them…nanghina uli me.. as in.. but sabi ko tuloy ko pa din meet sila its all in the mind yung sickness na na-feel ko… tapus after uwi na ko… nung gabi really feel sick.. but ignore ko pa din… so nag usap pa ko sa mga friends ko sa phone… hay til 12.. but several friends naman… worth it naman yung talks so no regret… isang friend ko pa dun medyo tagal kami hindi nag usap and ok na kami after that… bati na hehe.. anyway.. Monday came… pag ka gising ko feelings super sick nako.. hindi ko talaga kaya bangon sa kama to start my day but inisip ko pa din its all in the mind… so pumasok me office somehow nag work hehe tapus afternoon I dare to swim pa.. kase nga I enjoy my time swimming alone.. feeling the water.. after feeling better again me.. umuwi me nag dinner.. then okey hindi na kinaya ng katawan ko… humiga me sa bed then yun bagsak na me.. tulog me for 3 hours masakit na kase katawan ko fever na hehe..but inisip ko pa din… its all in the mind.. so today gumising me… terrible.. pumasok pa din me sa office but I really know na hindi ko na kaya talaga.. dapat nga may group saturation pa kami e, buti hindi tuloy kase if not iisipin ko again na its all in the mind tapus mag heavy work again me.. buti cancel so pinag isipan ko pa mabuti if mag swim me or uwi nalang to rest… so I decided na umuwi at huwag na mag swim kase yung sakit ko hindi na its all in the mind eh… its in my system na eh .. in my body na eh hehehe it get worst…hehe but wait… umuwi me at bring home ko work ko hahaha kaya kanina nag wowork me sa house hehehehe yun lang naman ang story ng sakit ko… sana heal na ko ni GOD hehe.. soon.. hirap ng feeling eh…and I miss to swim na…alone… hehehehe

My office place is a dangerous battle field. Making me decide and giving me the thought to quit the job I love.

My office place is a dangerous battle field. The past month pressured and stressed na stressed talaga me sa work ko… even I love my work… stressed ako.. Parang they’re making me decide or giving me the thought to quit the job I love. At first bulok systema ng company… dami problema sa company itself kahit na malaki and matagal na.. policy and rules niya baluktot…. Ang mga nasa top position… they are all like in an acting job… may personalan… etc.. nakaka stressed din ang mga clients.. dami prob about them… which is normal sa job na eto.. nakaka pressured ang maka benta.. kase laki ng quota tapus ang hirap pa mag hanap ng client at mag papunta ng client… and lastly just today ang laki ng stressed ko sa mga ka-officemates ko… they’re ethics are gone… they act as if they don’t fear GOD, nag susulutan sila ng clients, nagkaka roon ng labanan.. stories arises… hindi mo na talaga maintindihan kung sino ang nag sasabi ng totoo.. sino paniniwalaan… nagsisiraan sila…. even mga christian dito sa office involve…sila din ang mga kasama sa agawan ng clients… nakaka sad how and why nag kaka ganyan sila… napapa tanong me sa if gagawin ko din ba ang ginagawa nila… kase if you don’t fight the way they fight sa battle field.. you will not survive… kase sa nakita ko ang work namin sa office… parang survivor… if you don’t survive… goodbye.. tanggal ka… so… napaisip me… I love my work eh.. I still want to stay…. so… I pause…..napaisip me… doing what they do doesn’t make me any different from them…….which is I know what they do is wrong and not inspiring at all.. instead irritating… also what they do is not glorifying GOD.. I see them as animals.. as a scavenger… who only fights for life.. loving life…. And not knowing how to love at all... all they love is this world…. Sad…

How to Tell if a Guy Is Cheating

1. He's superprotective of his gadgets. "The main way that trysts are found out is through the discovery of incriminating e-mails, IM chats, cell phone texts or bills," says Belisa Vranich, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. So if he's being unfaithful, he may guard his gadgets or act really defensive when you innocently touch his phone or computer. It should be a giant red flag if he readily gave you passwords in the past, and now he's more evasive.

2. He steps up the grooming. This is so obvious, but it's a sign many women miss: "If your man starts grooming more without you requesting it, that could be an indication that he's getting intimate with someone else," says Vranich. You can actually thank modern mass media for this tipoff. Guys today are used to viewing manscaped dudes onscreen, so if he has another chick to impress with his appearance, he may emulate those ultra-trimmed guys. Another clue: He's spending more time at the gym.

3. He smells different. "When he comes home, if he doesn't smell the same as he did in the morning, and it isn't the scent of soap in the gym or at your home, it may be because he's showered at her place," offers Vranich. So pay attention, because in this case, that old saying "the nose knows" might very well be true.

4. Nothing fazes him anymore. "If he was short-tempered before, a combination of added intimacy and attention could be making him way more relaxed, even downright giddy," Vranich says. Adds Mira Kirshenbaum, author of "When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships": " If your guy is suddenly going around all happy and whistling, then you need to find out why."

5. He becomes suspicious of you. "If he's normally a mellow type, all of a sudden he may want to know where you are all the time and with whom," says Vranich. "It's the result of him realizing that if he's cheating and it's not that hard, you might also be getting away with it." Also, beware of extremely detailed responses to even your most innocent "How was work today?" queries. He may be preparing epic answers because he's terrified of getting caught.

One caveat: If your romantic life hasn't fallen off, that's no guarantee that he's faithful. "It's a serious mistake to think that affairs are necessarily physical. He may just be unhappy in other parts of the relationship," says Kirshenbaum. In fact, an illicit relationship could even stoke his lust for you.

A Real Friend

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself and doesn't feel even the least Pepsi drawer' with her foot! bit weird shutting your 'beer.

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend shoulder is soggy from your tears..


A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first
names.
A real friend has their phone numbers
in his address book.


A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your
party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and
stays late to help you clean.


A simple friend hates it when you call after they've gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.


A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.


A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it!


A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.


A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!


When you are down to nothing ...
God is up to something.

'Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who just likes your smile'

Fair Fight Guidelines

Fair Fight Guidelines
· Remember the point of the fight is to reach a solution, not to win, be right, or make your partner wrong.
· Don't try to mind read. Ask instead what he or she is thinking.
· Don't bring up all the prior problems that relate to this one. Leave the past in the past; keep this about one recent problem. Solve one thing at a time.
· Keep the process simple. State the problem, suggest some alternatives, and choose a solution together.
· Don't talk too much at once. Keep your statements to two or three sentences. Your partner will not be able to grasp more than that.
· Give your partner a chance to respond and to suggest options.
· Practice equality. If something is important enough to one of you, it will inevitably be important to both of you, so honor your partner's need to solve a problem.
· Ask and Answer questions directly. Again, keep it as simple as possible. Let your partner know you hear him or her.
· State your problem as a request, not a demand. To make it a positive request, use "I messages" and "please".
· Don't use power struggle tactics: guilt and obligation, threats and emotional blackmail, courtroom logic: peacekeeping, sacrificing, or hammering away are off limits.
· Know your facts: If you're going to fight for something, know the facts about the problem: Do research, find out what options are available, and know how you feel and what would solve the problem for you.
· Ask for changes in behavior, don't criticize character, ethics or morals.
· Don't fight over who's right or wrong. Opinions are opinions, and that won't solve the problem. Instead, focus on what will work.
· Ask your partner if he or she has anything to add to the discussion. "Is there anything else we need to discuss now?"
· Don't guess what your partner is thinking or feeling. Instead, ask. "What do you think?" Or "How do you feel about it?
· Hold hands, look at each other, and remember you're partners.
· If you're angry, express it calmly. "I'm angry about ..." There's no need for drama, and it won't get you what you want. Anger is satisfied by being acknowledged, and by creating change. Anger is a normal emotion -- rage is phony, it's drama created by not taking care of yourself.
· Acknowledged and honor your partner's feelings -- don't deflect them, laugh at them or freak out. They're only feelings, and they subside when respected, heard and honored.
· Listen with your whole self. Paraphrase what your partner says; check to see if you understand by repeating what is said. "So you are angry because you think I ignored you. Is that right?"
· No personal attacks or criticism. Focus on solving the problem.
· If you want to let off steam (vent), ask permission or take a time out. Handle your excess emotion or energy by being active (run, walk, hit a pillow,) writing, or talking to someone who is not part of the problem. Don't direct it personally at anyone. You can't vent and solve problems at the same time.
· Don't try to solve a problem if you're impaired: tired, hungry, drunk or unstable.
· Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it, and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

10 Signs That You're Dating a Commitment-Ready Guy

Are you ready for a relationship that is going to lead somewhere without you being led on? It's time to start weeding out the commitment phobics and put your time and effort into men that are looking for the kind of relationship you want -- one that has a future. If you're interested in getting married, ignore these at your own risk. Here's what to look for:

1. His friends are married

If you are interested in a guy, check out his friends' left hands to see if they have wedding rings on. Research has show that if his friends are already married, he's more likely to get married.
Research has show that if his friends are already married, he's more likely to get married. If all of his friends are still single and in the "party-with-the-boys" phase, that's a bad sign.

2. He's financially secure

Studies show that men who own a home are more marriage-ready. A man who is generally financially stable, and has his ducks in a row, feels marriage is a practical next step for him.

3. He pursues you

The guy who is commitment-ready is going to initiate doing things with you. If you're emailing him and he takes days to email you back, if you have to text him to find out where he is, if you are always calling him, you're chasing a man who's probably not marriage-material.

4. He's willing to wait

Yes, research is telling us what we already know: If a guy gets to know you before getting intimate, he is more likely to commit.

5. He watches DVDs with you when you're sick

Taking care of you when you're sick shows that this guy isn't just in it for the fun. If he wants to be with you in bad times, it's a sign he's in it for the long haul.

6. He gets to know your friends and family

A guy who is thinking long-term wants to truly get to know you. Seeing you interact with your family and friends helps him learn where you come from and more about who you are. The flip side of it is that he will also want you to get to know him! He'll want to see if you fit in with his family and friends. A guy who keeps you separate from the important people in his life is just playing around.

7. He says, "we" instead of "me"

When he switches from "me" to "we", that's a sign he's committing to you at a deeper level. If your guy is all, "I", "me", and "my" instead of "we" and "us" in conversations after you've been dating a while, his mindset is still in single guy mode.

8. He's not afraid of compromise

A commitment-ready guy is going to ask your opinion, consult you about decisions he needs to make, and has the ability to meet you half-way. A commitment-ready guy is going to ask your opinion, consult you about decisions he needs to make, and has the ability to meet you half-way. A bull-headed guy who needs everything his way or it's the highway, isn't ready for the compromise that's naturally part of a mature relationship.

9. He doesn't need excuses

Commitment-phobic guys always have an excuse about why they can't be with you on Saturday night, why they didn't call, and why they aren't ready for a relationship right now. A commitment-ready guy doesn't need excuses, he just needs you.

10. He likes being in a long-term relationship

Some men like being in a monogamous relationship and some don't. The sooner you realize and accept this the better. If he complains all the time about needing space, treats you like a giant burden instead of a gift, and keeps talking about taking things slow, he's telling you he's not ready for a commitment. On the other hand, if he's done with the party scene, enjoys your "couple time" together, and has a strong sense of family, you've found a commitment-ready guy.

The Wrong Kind of Role Playing

Have you ever played the victim?

In relationships, couples tend to take on certain roles. One of the most popular roles is that of a victim. Typical victim behavior includes pouting, sulking, running away from arguments, refusing to make decisions or take responsibility for situations, and adding more to one's to-do list in order to feel like a martyr.

What happens in relationships in which there is a victim? It creates a need for the other partner to respond to this behavior in one of two ways. He can either be the villain (the person who is causing the victim to cry, sulk, etc.) or he can be the hero (the person who is trying to comfort the often inconsolable victim). Neither situation is preferable, because when you get to the bottom of it, it is all roleplay. (And not the good kind!)

When you act insincerely in your relationship, such as by crying and refusing to reveal why, acting weaker than truly are, or causing a scene just for the attention and drama it creates, you are cheating you and your partner out of an authentic, lasting connection.

Like the boy who cried wolf, a partner who always cries victim soon becomes an untrustworthy source and her needs fall on deaf ears. Meanwhile, her partner is stuck internalizing all of the negative feedback, sometimes to the point that he actually does act out the villainous behavior of which he has been accused.

What's the lesson here? The next time your partner lets you down or makes you angry, don't embrace it as an opportunity to take the stage and play the victim. Instead, give your feedback maturely and authentically. If you want to cry and yell, go ahead. But just make sure it is coming from your real emotions, and not from a need for melodrama.

Why He Won't Propose

Wedding season is upon us, and as you watch excited friends and family members scurry down the aisle, you might be wondering: When will it be my turn to tie the knot?

It is not unusual to get antsy about ascending to the next stage in your relationship, especially when you see friends of the same age (or younger!) already in the land of happily ever after. Of course, not everyone needs a ring to create a lifetime commitment with their partner, but for those who do want to get married, waiting for the proposal can be agonizing.
So, why in the world isn't he proposing?

Men Don't Hear the Clock Ticking. While men are fertile well into elderly years (Hello, Hef!), the biological clock keeps a different timetable for women. Even though medical advancements can now allow women to have babies well into their forties, the chances of conceiving and carrying a healthy baby to term decrease rapidly with age. Men often do not realize the extent of this fertility timetable, and even if they do, they might not feel the same pressure to settle down. The good news as to why he hasn't proposed yet? It's not you -- it's Mother Nature.

Men Dread the Big Day. Not all women dream of the big day and the white gown, but many do. As a result, some women crave marriage more than men, simply because they can't wait to be princess for a day! However, the groom-to-be usually feels something akin to dread -- not because he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with his blushing bride, but because he doesn't want to spend hours deciding table arrangements or corralling his family into a reception hall. The upshot? Be sure your man knows your future wedding isn't going to be a three-ring circus, and get him thinking about possible honeymoon spots. The thought of you in a bikini in Aruba might get him down on one knee.

Men Want to Be Prepared. Yes, romantic comedies make spontaneous proposals look tempting, but the truth is that marriages fare better in situations where the finances and big life decisions are already planned out. If you and your significant other haven't seriously discussed marriage, let alone where you will live, if you will have kids, etc., chances are that he hasn't proposed because your relationship isn't prepared for that next step. The cure? Figure out if your life plans are on the same track by casually mentioning your own future goals, whether it is to own a business, buy a house, or have a baby.

Men Fear the Proposal Moment. Have you ever thought about how scary it must be to plan what is supposed to be the most romantic moment of you and your partner's life? From JumboTron proposals to hiding engagement rings inside of Crab Rangoon, previous grooms have created a lot for your partner to live up to. Assuage his fears by letting him know that skywriting is nice, but sweet, simple gestures are best.

Finally, if you know that you are ready for the next step in your relationship, but you still haven't seen any bling, you might want to consider summoning up your bravery and popping the question yourself!

3 Red Flags That You're Headed for a Breakup

Fortunately, you can predict a break up. And with just a little bit of tweaking, you can get back on track and rescue your relationship before it hits the rocks.

Red Flag #1: Tuning OutOne of the most common reasons relationships fail is because one or both partners is tuning out. It might sound minor, but in actuality, few things are more hurtful than being ignored by your loved one, whether that is accompanied by emotional neglect or physical distance.

The Cure: Take Down the Wall Tuning back in is easy. All you have to do is agree to listen to your partner's feedback and dedicate time and emotion to the relationship again. Start taking down the emotional wall, brick by brick. Look at your partner in the eye when he or she speaks (even if it is not what you want to hear), make physical contact daily (even if it is just holding hands), and re-commit to the relationship.

Red Flag #2: Fighting Fire with FireCouples who fight fire with fire can expect a relationship that is constantly up in flames. Name-calling, sarcasm, criticism, and violence (from throwing things, slamming doors, to actual physical abuse) result in emotional wounds that are hard to heal and relationships that are hard to rescue.

The Cure: Pour Water on the FlamesThe next time you feel anger guiding you to say, or do, things you might regret, take time to cool off. If that's not possible, try framing your complaints as requests. For instance instead of, "Why did you forget our date?," you could say, "I feel sad that you forgot our date. How can we make sure this doesn't happen again?" If your partner is the one who is fanning the flames, don't engage in the vicious cycle of insults and tantrums. You can't fight fire with fire if the other person won't engage in the flame-throwing.

Red Flag #3: Refusing to Own UpNo one is perfect, so why is it that some of us refuse to take responsibility in our most important relationships? Passing the buck and playing the victim are surefire ways to put a relationship in jeopardy.

The Cure: Take Responsibility for Your ActionsThe next time you forget an anniversary, or say something hurtful to your spouse, don't try to pass the buck and refuse to take responsibility. Instead, admit where you went wrong and try harder next time. Sounds simple... but it can save your relationship.

By making simple changes to the way you and your partner communicate, you can keep your relationship intact. All couples fight and argue, but it is how you fight and argue that determines whether your love can weather the storm.

A Dating Guide for Women: "Man Talk" Translation

When you first look at a man and a woman, you are able to notice the subtle differences between the sexes. It is when the two sexes communicate with each other, however, that the differences become truly glaring. This is because one is speaking "he talk" while the other is speaking "she talk."
Where this difference really becomes a problem is when you are in a relationship, and you need to know how to combine "he talk" and "she talk" into "we talk." So I feel like it's my job as a man and as a dating coach to help women learn how to understand "he talk" (or "man talk" as I like to call it), so that they won't need to hire a translator to understand what men are saying.
Women want men to express their feelings. They complain, "Why can't he just say he loves me?" or, "I wish he would just compliment me more."
What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you... they just do it using their own language. Men, in fact, sometimes don't use words at all when they are communicating with you.
This will help you understand men's verbal and non-verbal language.

Sometimes it's not what men say, but it's their actions that are significant. It is necessary for women to learn to interpret men's roundabout way of communicating with them.
Here are 10 things that men say and do, and what they really mean:

1. He starts talking about how crazy all his single friends lives are, and then he tells you that he doesn't miss it at all. What most women will think if they hear this, is that he misses those days. This is not true. He says this because he is looking for confirmation that you feel exactly the same way. He also wants to communicate that he's ready to take the relationship to the next level.
2. Since you recently took him to your family's house for dinner, he can't stop talking about how much fun he had with your brother. What he means here is that he really likes your family, and wouldn't mind being a part of your family.
3. He teases you about things like how clumsy you are or about how you put smiley faces in every one of your emails. What he's really telling you when he does this is that he really likes you a lot. Remember that men are just giant boys... we tease the ones we love and ignore the ones we don't.
4. A man tells you he needs his space. So what does this mean to you? It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he'll start calling you and wondering what happened.
5. A man says that he really wants you to meet his parents. What does this mean in man talk? He's telling you that you are his girlfriend, and that he is ready to take it to the next level by getting you involved with his family. This brings us right to the next bit of man talk.
6. When a man calls you and says, "I want you to meet my friends on Friday night," this is as big as meeting his parents. He's introducing you to his pack. It means that he thinks you are attractive and sexy, and he wants to show you off to his friends.
7. After sleeping over at his house several times, he tells you that the next time you sleep over you should bring some things to make you feel more comfortable and a change of clothing. In man talk, that is basically telling you that he's wondering what it would be like to live with you. He also wants your things around.
8. You have plans with him on a Sunday, and you find out that he passed up floor seats to his favorite basketball team to keep those plans with you. What does that tell you in man talk? It tells you that he's hooked... and that you are his girlfriend.
9. He is watching one of your favorite shows on a night you're not together, and he calls you afterwards to talk about it. In man talk, what does this mean? By doing this, he's telling you that he pays attention to you, and he's interested in learning more about you and sharing more things with you. Men generally do not choose to watch "Project Runway" on their own. If we're watching your TV shows, we really like you.
10. He tells you, "I've cleaned today." What this means in man talk is, "I spent the day doing something I dislike more than anything." You need to realize that when a man says this to you, he really likes you. To most men, cleaning the house is just about the worst way he can spend a day.

Once you understand the hidden language and actions of man talk, you'll become far more secure in your dating and relationships. So the next time you go over to your man's house and he looks at you and says, "I cleaned today," you'll know that he really meant to say, "I must really like you, because I can ignore my mess most of the time."

my baptismal testimony

I have accepted JESUS CHRIST as my LORD and savior 5 years ago. It’s been quite sometime, and it took me half a decade to stand here, present myself and my testimony and shout to the world, what my heart truly believes in. For me standing here is not simple; it’s a life commitment and an obligation that I should be responsible of. It took me a little long, in GOD’s will. I attempted twice to be baptist, but every time I attempted to I always go destractions, seems someone is hindering me, I prayed for this 3rd time and I am glad that in GOD’s will I am here. Through this years I’ve been a lot of things, I even have encountered difficult situations, I’ve been spiritually down and up, experienced back sliding and still, in GOD’s grace, over and over it leads me back home. GOD made me taste the bitterness of life yet HE also did full me with the sweetness of HIS love. HE wanted me and my faith to be tougher than ever. HE showed me and taught me that all the aches have purpose, if only I will just listen to HIM, then I’ll know. I am not perfect. I am being tested by GOD. I commit mistakes, stumble and fall. I have hurt and been hurt. I have been disobedient and hardheaded. All through this, my FATHER, your FATHER, our FATHER, never turned HIS back to me. Still continuously embrace me with love, and gave me peace. HE is so great and merciful. For me HE is everything. HE showed me love and how to love; HE showed me forgiveness and taught how to forgive. HE is always with me all throughout. I am the person who don’t easily believe, because I have this thinking that “To see is to believe.”. But what is not seeing HIM, if feeling HIM in my life is more than enough. And I am so proud to be called HIS child.

A Dozen Ways to Get to Know Your Real Partner

The Signs Are All Around You
By Stacy D. Phillips

Here are the dozen indicators:
1. Protocol: First or Second? Whether it's walking through a door, ordering dinner, or taking a bite out of the freshly baked cookies you have made together, if your partner always have to go first this could indicate self- centeredness. Are you willing to always be the giver?
2. Politics: Liberal or Conservative? How your partner views what is right or wrong in a political sense tells you a lot about his deep inner beliefs about society, and ultimately, the way he will approach your relationship issues. Will his views cause a rift in your relationship?
3. Television: Sitcoms or News? If his tendency is to watch "escape" TV programs versus "newsy/event" oriented ones, you can learn a lot about one's intellect. Do you want a mate who can keep up with your every day interest in what is going on in the world or a person you can run away with to avoid the world we live in?
4. Money: Flash or Stash? If your partner throws money around while dating, he might well be reckless with your joint finances when you move in together. Do you want to hook up with a tightwad or splurger?
5. Stress: Freak or Peak? Under Pressure, does he go to pieces or rise to the top of his game? If the answer is the former, every minor incident in your relationship might become a crisis. Do you like a lot of drama?
6. Conversation: About You or Him? As you first get to know each other does he always talk about himself first or you? If he is usually the topic priority do not expect that to change. Can you subordinate yourself to the world revolving around him?
7. Pets: Warm or Aloof? Believe it or not, the way in which he treats animals will not be dissimilar to how he treats your children. How do you want him to treat your loved ones?
8. Communication: Listens or Ignores? If you have something you want to talk about and he tunes you out as a general rule, can you cope?
9. Strangers: Kind or Rude? How he treats those they do not know (waiters, grocery clerks) often reflects on how he will treat people in general, including you, shortly after the glow wears off.
10. Priorities: Family or Work? You can tell almost immediately where a person's preferences lie in terms of what comes first (a family member's illness or a business trip) by the choices he makes when faced with an "either/or" situation. Do you care if he leaves on the next plane to present the such-and-such report if you or the kids have pneumonia?
11. Appearance: Fat or Fit? How he regards his appearance screams loudly about his sense of self-esteem. Those who eat sensibly, workout reasonably, and who take pride in their appearance are the ones who have a great sense of self. Does he really have self-confidence or might it be a front?
12. Faith: Strong or Weak? If you want a peak at his soul, learn more about his spirituality, or lack of it. What a person believes deep down is often what shapes the way in which they conduct their day-to-day affairs. What is your mate's "words to live by?"

Enhancing Relationships

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is." Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".



NO POINTING FINGERS A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.



CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS? A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television." There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.



NO OVERPOWERING Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..



RIGHT SPEECH There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise !you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you." Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.



PERSONAL PERCEPTION Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..



BE PATIENT This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son,!knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Three Things In Life - This is beautiful

Three things in life that, once gone, never come back - 1. Time 2. Words 3. Opportunity

Three things in life that can destroy a person - 1. Anger 2. Pride 3.Unforgiveness

Three things in life that you should never lose- 1. Hope 2. Peace 3. Honesty

Three things in life that are most valuable - 1. Love 2.. Family & ;Friends 3.Kindness

Three things in life that are never certain - 1. Fortune 2. Success 3. Dreams

Three things that make a person - 1. Commitment 2. Sincerity 3. Hard work

Three things that are truly constant - Father - Son - Holy Spirit

75 lessons that MUST be learned in a relationship

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "befriends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship,but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decentand inorder.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship -- take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be witha man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. “Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by abunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? “ – my last ex bf.. ganyan… =D
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't waitfor him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse,there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is aman, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you,doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom --'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the .1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your life long taskof trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving,and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's brokenheart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consistsof twoWHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can endit - but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (with in reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you,You cant force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be withhim you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like goodmen.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socio economic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.

** Hehehe oh so TRUE . . . .