The one that got away... =D

Source:The Manila Times
By:Mark Macapagal

In ur life,u’ll make note of a lot ofpeople.Ones with whom you sharedsomething special,ones who will alwaysmean something.There’s the one u firstkissed,the one you first loved,the oneu put on a pedestal,the one u’re withand the one that got away.Who is the one that got away?I guessit’s that person with who everythingwas great,everything was perfect,butthe timing was just wrong.There was nofault in the person,there was no flawin the chemistry,but the cards justdidn’t fall the right way,I suppose.I believe in the fact that ending upwith someone,finding a longtimepartner that is,does not lie merely inthe other person.I can actually arguethat an equal part,or maybe even thegreater part,has to do with the matterof timing.It has to do with you beingready to settle down and commit tosomeone in a way that goes beyond thelittle niceties of giddy romance.How often have u gone through itwithout even realizing it?When u’renot ready to commit in that maturemanner,it doesn’t matter who u’rewith,it just doesn’t work.Smallproblems become big;inconsequentialsbecome dealbreakers simply becauseu’re not ready and it shows.It’s notthat u and the person u’re with are nogood;it’s just that it’s not yetright,and little things become theflashpoint of that fact.Then one day u’re ready.U reallyare.And when this happens u’ll beready to settle down with someone.Heor she may not be the mostperfect,they might not be thebrightest star of romance to ever haveburned in your life,but it’ll workbecause u’re ready.It’ll work becauseit’s the right time and u’ll make itwork.And it’ll make sense,it reallywill.So that day comes when u’re finallymaking sense of things,and u findurself to be a different person.Thingsare different, ur approach isdifferent,u finally understand who uare and what u want,and u’ve becomeready because the time has trulyarrived.And mind you,there’s notelling when this day willcome.Hopefully u’re single but youcould be in a long-term relationship,ucould be married with three kids,itdoesn’t matter.All u know is that u’vechanged,and for some reason,the onethat got away,is the first person uthink about.U’ll think about them because u’llwonder,“What if they were here today?”u’ll wonder,“What if we were togethernow,with me as I am and not as Iwas?”That’s what the one that got awayis.The biggest“What if?”you’ll have inur life.If u’re married,u’ll just have toaccept the fact that the one that gotaway,got away.Believe me,no matter howfairy tale u think your marriageis,this can happen to the best ofus.But hopefully u’re mature enough torealize that you’re already with theone u’re with and this is just anothertest of your commitment,one which willjust strengthen ur marriage when youget past it.Sure,u’ll think abouthim/her every so often,but it’salright.It’s never nice to live witha“might have been,”but it happens.Maybe the one that got away is the onewho’s already married.In which caseit’s the same thing.U just have toaccept and know that your memories ofthat person will probably bring a nicelittle smile to ur lips in the futurewhen u’re old and gray and reminiscing.But if neither of that is thecase,then it’s different.What do youdo if it’s not yet too late?Simple…find him,find her.Because the veryexistence of a“one that got away”meansthat u’ll always wonder,what if u gotthat one?Ask him out to coffee,ask her out to amovie,it doesn’t matter if you’vedropped in from out of nowhere.U’d besurprised,U just might be“the one thatgot away”as well for the person who isur“the one that got away.”U might drop in from out of nowhereand it won’t make a difference.If thetiming is finally right,it’ll all justfall into place somehow and youknow,I’m thinking,it would be a greatfeeling,in the end,to be able to sayto someone,“Hey u,u’re the one thatalmost got away.”love best,frens..